I have so many thoughts about the Film Screening, I put together with NHMU and others last night. Billy Luther', Miss Navajo was a great film. Even better was meeting and seeing and learning from Crystal Frazier. She is a phenomenal woman. She has a BS in Aeronautic Engineering and said one day she hopes to return to the Rez to teach in her father's immersion school the AP Calculus and AP Science courses in Navajo. The world needs more woman like this. Meeting Crystal was a highlight for the film festival this year.
A lowlight, Mormon influence on native culture. I am repulsed by baptism of the dead but the loss of Native culture through missionary work is equally repulsive to me. I remember Victoria from 3rd grade, Lorraine Begay and Jr. from elementary school. I remember feeling so sad for them. I think because I was equally as shy as Victoria. I really remember feeling that poor Victoria was living with a Mormon family in our neighborhood and I was baffled - why? She had a family on the reservation why would she want to live here? I remember she didn't fit in. Lorraine and Jr. in 6th grade - it's odd I don't have the same memory of sadness for them. I think because 6th grade was such a traumatic year for me, I can't imagine what those 2 were dealing with. I remember Jr. was tiny like me and kind of cute and always getting into trouble. He had one arm that had been trampled by a horse. The films I have seen over and over again this month have really brought that disturbing action of ethnic cleansing of Native people to my eyes. Taking young children off the reservation to be educated instead of taking high quality education to the reservation.
Thursday, November 29, 2012
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Car oddesey
Sitting in Beans and Brews 900s 500e SLC is full of diverse interesting city characters! If you dropped me here from another planet you would never think this is Utah... It feels city!!! :-) just had a yummy curry chicken bun @ the Vietnamese bakery, walked along the shops o. 900s and ended up here as Audi not fixed in time for me. I am hope knight in shining black Audi arrive soon. I need to be @ Kol Ami in 10 minutes.
Good Tired
I'm pretty tired today but not tired in a bad way. It's been a very stressful couple of years, financially. Years I hope nobody else ever has to experience and I hope will never repeat for us. As I type this Alpine Audi Mechanic just called to let me know Audi needs $640 in repairs! Oy! In the big scheme of things Karla Pardini taught me...it's only money. Money does help but having a good job that I enjoy, a community that has supported me, and above all a most wonderful family - I can't complain. I am not tired from stress which is a new feeling. I am tired from working late and staying up late to help pishi and the boy with their homework - things I really enjoy. I am so sad Setareh had poor elementary school preparation and am very happy and pleased with Midvale Middle School. We had to get up early to drive Setareh's 3D settlement to school. I am quite proud of that girl and her adjustment to 7th grade - she is such a hard worker. I hope she keeps that ethic with her forever because that will always pay off.
Monday, November 26, 2012
"A Whole Circus in a Boy" - Arian
I am so proud of both kids!!! Setareh worked hard on her social studies project even with the instagram addiction. Arian finished his November project "Thankful Video Adverstisement" and Saturday, Setareh had a great workout at soccer and Ari went to Farsi class with his new sentence...Setareh loos ast. My FB post about it..."Kids, get your loos ast in the car!" Taking the time to be together at home is rare but so wonderful!
Saturday, November 24, 2012
Thanksgiving 2012
Siamak enjoys Thanksgiving and I have enjoyed making Thanksgiving for many many years now.
Thanksgiving 2011 was rough, sweet and small - as we had just returned from Albuquerque following Malky's funeral. The year before Thanksgiving 2010, Pooriejoon had just had knee surgery and we were in Foster City. Also, wonderful to be with the Fatemi's and quite the spin on Thanksgiving to celebrate with Persians the most American of Holidays. Abos made the most incredible Turkeys filled with dried apricots, cranberries, zereshk, raisins etc. it was quite memorable...I used some cranberries this year when I made the Turkey hoping to mimic a little of his recipe. The guest list this year at our Thanksgiving is what really seemed to break mold.
I have a lot to be Thankful for...and hope to always be thankful for all that i have!
I post this article below for Sahar...it is true LOL!
Thankfully our thankful day was peaceful with no overt fighting :-)
I post this article below for Sahar...it is true LOL!
Thankfully our thankful day was peaceful with no overt fighting :-)
How To Pick a Fight With Your Relatives This Thanksgiving
By John
Cook
Posted Wednesday, Nov. 21, 2012, at 5:11 PM ET
THIS IS WHEN YOU POUNCE.
So here are some good rules to follow to make sure your
Thanksgiving descends into a screaming match that mortifies your loved ones and
makes you feel superior to all your troglodyte cousins.
1) Select Your Target. Obviously,
you need to find someone who disagrees with you politically. But not just
anyone: Close relatives present perilous risks. Your parents or siblings can
drag all sorts of emotional baggage into the fight, muddying the waters and
making it more about how your veganism ruined that family vacation to
Yellowstone in 1999 than whether "job-killer" is a racist code word.
It's safest to go with relatives you only see once or twice a year. Your angry
drunk uncle, if he's game. Or that weird cousin who joined the Civil Air Patrol
when you were in college.
3) What Should We Fight About? Israel.
You should fight about Israel. Particularly if you are Jewish or are married to
a Jew or are the child of an Evangelical Christian. If you can find a way to
work your way backward to the Clinton impeachment, that's always a gold mine of
long-repressed rage and conflict. Otherwise you are stuck with the election—amateur hour.
4) How Much Should I Drink? As
much as you can.
5) How Do I Know If I'm Winning? Think
of it as one of those blue vs. red military exercises. When your adversary gets
frustrated and inadvertently sputters out a transparently racist epithet
(I once got my uncle to shout "because they're swinging on trees and
eating bananas!" during a Thanksgiving fight about the Sandinistas),
that's like capturing their flag.
6) When Should I Toss My Silverware Onto My Plate and Stalk
Dramatically Away From the Table? This
is an important moment. Pulling the trigger too soon can make you seem petty
and overly sensitive (you're really going to run away over a Joe Biden joke
recycled from Dennis Miller?), but disengaging too late risks letting things
get out of hand. Plus, it's wise to build in some time between the end of the
fight and the end-of-dinner goodbyes to let everyone cool off. And it's crucial
that you walk away before your adversary does—if he leaves first, everyone else
at the table is left looking at you and seething. I like to time things so that
I walk away in a huff right before coffee is served.
But remember: Keep it light. You're providing
entertainment/mortification for the rest of the table, so try to hit a tone of
bemused contempt rather than righteous outrage. And be thankful that you have a
retrograde family to make you feel better about yourself.
Tuesday, November 20, 2012
Things I'm Thankful for November 2012
This blog started a little late to capture a lot of the drama, but I am getting ready for Thanksgiving and this year I am deeply thankful for this picture. I am going to attach some news headlines...but also adding my favorite quote during the debates came from Arian:
Mom, I like the way President Obama stops and thinks about what he's about to say.
Divided U.S. Gives Obama More Time
Doug Mills/The New York Times
Americans voted to give President Obama a second chance to change Washington. More Photos »
By JEFF ZELENY and JIM RUTENBERG
Published: November 6, 2012
Barack Hussein Obama was re-elected president of the United States on Tuesday, overcoming powerful economic headwinds, a lock-step resistance to his agenda by Republicans in Congress and an unprecedented torrent of advertising as a divided nation voted to give him more time.
Mr. Obama’s campaign team built its coalition the hard way, through intensive efforts to find and motivate supporters who had lost the ardor of four years ago and, Mr. Obama’s strategists feared, might not find their way to polls if left to their own devices.
Up against real enthusiasm for Mr. Romney — or, just as important, against Mr. Obama — among Republicans and many independents, their strategy of spending vast sums of money on their get-out-the-vote operation seemed vindicated on Tuesday.
As opinion surveys that followed the first debate between Mr. Romney and Mr. Obama showed a tightening race, Mr. Obama’s team had insisted that its coalition was coming together as it hoped it would. In the end, it was not a bluff.
Even with Mr. Obama pulling off a new sweep of the highly contested battlegrounds from Nevada to New Hampshire, the result in each of the states was very narrow. The Romney campaign was taking its time early Wednesday to review the outcome and searching for any irregularities.
The top issue on the minds of voters was the economy, according to interviews, with three-quarters saying that economic conditions were not good or poor. But only 3 in 10 said things were getting worse, and 4 in 10 said the economy was improving.
Mr. Romney, who campaigned aggressively on his ability to turn around the deepest economic downturn since the Great Depression, was given a narrow edge when voters were asked which candidate was better equipped to handle the economy, the interviews found.
The electorate was split along partisan lines over a question that drove much of the campaign debate: whether it was Mr. Obama or his predecessor, George W. Bush, who bore the most responsibility for the nation’s continued economic challenges. About 4 in 10 independent voters said that Mr. Bush should be held responsible.
The president built a muscular campaign organization and used a strong financial advantage to hold off an array of forces that opposed his candidacy. The margin of his victory was smaller than in 2008 — he held an advantage of about 700,000 in the popular vote early Wednesday — but a strategic firewall in several battleground states protected his Electoral College majority.
As Mr. Romney gained steam and stature in the final weeks of the campaign, the Obama campaign put its hopes in perhaps one thing above all others: that the rebound in the auto industry after the president’s bailout package of 2009 would give him the winning edge in Ohio, a linchpin of his road to re-election.
Early interviews with voters showed that just over half of Ohio voters approved of the bailout, a result that was balanced by a less encouraging sign for the president: Some 4 in 10 said they or someone in their household had lost a job over the last four years.
He defeated Mr. Romney 52 percent to 47 percent in Hamilton County, home to Cincinnati, but only because of the number of votes he banked in the month leading up to Election Day.
Mr. Obama won despite losing some of his 2008 margins among his key constituencies, including among younger voters, blacks and Jewish voters, yet he appeared to increase his share among Hispanics and Asians. Early exit poll results showed Latinos representing about 1 in 10 voters nationwide, and voting for Mr. Obama in greater numbers than four years ago, making a difference in several states, including Colorado and Florida.
He held on to female voters, according to preliminary exit polls conducted by Edison Research, but he struggled even more among white men than he did four years ago.
Mr. Romney’s coalition included disproportionate support from whites, men, older people, high-income voters, evangelicals, those from suburban and rural counties, and those who call themselves adherents of the Tea Party — a group that had resisted him through the primaries but had fully embraced him by Election Day.
The Republican Party seemed destined for a new round of self-reflection over how it approaches Hispanics going forward, a fast-growing portion of the voting population that senior party strategists had sought to woo before a strain of intense activism against illegal immigration took hold within the Republican grass roots.
It was the first presidential election since the 2010 Supreme Court decision loosening restrictions on political spending, and the first in which both major-party candidates opted out of the campaign matching system that imposes spending limits in return for federal financing. And the overall cost of the campaign rose accordingly, with all candidates for federal office, their parties and their supportive “super PACs” spending more than $6 billion combined.
The results Tuesday were certain to be parsed for days to determine just what effect the spending had, and who would be more irate at the answer — the donors who spent millions of dollars of their own money for a certain outcome, or those who found a barrage of negative advertising to be major factors in their defeats.
While the campaign often seemed small and petty, with Mr. Romney and Mr. Obama intensely quarreling and bickering, the contest was actually rooted in big and consequential decisions, with the role of the federal government squarely at the center of the debate.
Though Mr. Obama’s health care law galvanized his most ardent opposition, and continually drew low ratings in polls as a whole, interviews with voters found that nearly half wanted to see it kept intact or expanded, a quarter wanted to see it repealed entirely and another quarter said they wanted portions of it repealed.
In Chicago, as crowds waited for Mr. Obama to deliver his speech, his supporters erupted into a roar of relief and elation. Car horns honked from the street as people chanted the president’s name.
“I feel like it’s a repudiation of everything the Republicans said in the campaign,” said Jasmyne Walker, 31, who jumped up and down on the edge of a stone planter in a downtown plaza. “Everybody said that if he lost it would be buyer’s remorse — that we were high on hope in 2008. This says we’re on the right track. I feel like this confirms that.”
Michael Cooper and Allison Kopicki contributed reporting.
Indigenous Day at NHMU 11/19/12
Indigenous Day focuses on sharing Native American culture with youth
By McKenzie Romero, Deseret News
SALT LAKE CITY — Voices and drums from Utah's Native American tribes filled the Natural History Museum of Utah on Monday night in a song that some say is at risk of being silenced forever.
Shirlee Silversmith, director of the Division of Indian Affairs, said this year's program was highlighted by performances of youth groups from elementary to high school age in hopes of connecting them to their American Indian heritage and ensuring it endures.
"My hope is that the tradition of learning the language, history, songs and dances will endure through many generations and never be lost," Silversmith told the audience at the beginning of the evening's performances.
"It's important for me that we preserve our culture," Silversmith said. "We don't want our languages to be lost or our traditions to be lost. We want our languages to be a part of the future of our people."
Lt. Gov. Greg Bell was on hand at Monday's event to officially declare the date Indigenous Day and speak about the importance of reaching out to and respecting cultures that aren't your own. Bell even took part in the traditional Bear Dance with some of the youth dancers.
"It's amazing. I don't know how to describe it," she said. "It's part of me."
Tapoof, who beamed in a traditional dress and colorful beaded crown, said she hopes to be a role model for Native American youth and encourage them to hold on to their heritage while pursuing education and successful careers.
Kayla's sister, Nicole, the reining Miss Uintah High School and a member of the Ute tribal nation, said she looks forward to events like Indigenous Day because they allow her to meet new people who share her heritage. Throughout the night, Nicole Tapoof spoke in Noochue, the Ute language.
"It's a rush, knowing you're doing something for your tribe and spreading your culture," she said.
Nicole Tapoof said she hopes Utahns will understand the state's Native American culture "is for everyone" and will seek out opportunities to learn with them.
A highlight of the evening was the Hoop Dance, performed by four students from the Alpine School District who transformed piles of plastic hoops into wings, globes and more as they imitated animals and insects in their energetic dance.
Silversmith added that she believes events like Native American Heritage Month and Utah's Indigenous Day are important because some accounts of history taught in Utah schools are inaccurate and not culturally relevant.
She invited anyone wanting to learn more about Native American culture and history to visit the website for the Division of Indian Affairs or to contact her."I want people to know about our history — the real history," Silversmith said. "I think as I've experienced education in the state of Utah, there has been such a small, limited attention to Indian history."
Ann Hannibal, spokeswoman for the Natural History Museum, said attendance of Monday's event was capped at 500 visitors. While she was unsure if the event met its limit, it filled every hall.
"There's just been this wonderful energy that surrounds this event," Hannibal said.
Hands-on activities also were available throughout the museum, giving guests a chance to learn about traditional sand painting and to make their own Fremont tribe figurines, natural duck decoys and decorative magnets depicting the state's rock art.
Jaynie Hirschi, an archeologist for Hill Air Force Base, helped visitors sculpt their own Fremont figurines out of sandstone-colored clay. She said she hopes the outreach program will be able to participate in future events and raise awareness about base's archeological efforts on its Utah testing grounds.
Burt and Brenda Matthews of Fruit Heights said they brought their young children to the event in hopes of helping them respect and admire history and other cultures.
"It's knowledge," Brenda Matthews said, "and the more knowledge they have, the more successful they'll be growing up."
It's been good to work and get to know Shirlee Silversmith who has helped promote UEN's American Indian Film Festival. I'll have to get some pics from the girls but it was good to have Sahar and Sayeh helping and Pete too.
Monday, November 19, 2012
11/18/12 1 year later...I miss you so much!!!
In Memory of
Muriel Zelda Fessinger
Obituary
Muriel Zelda Fessinger was born on September 17th 1924 in Denver, Colorado. She was the youngest and last surviving of four daughters born to Hyman G. and Salina (Lena) nee, Richards, Simons. Muriel passed away peacefully in the first hour of the morning of November 18th 2011. Muriel reveled in her life as wife, mother, sister, aunt, grandmother and great-grandmother. Her innate talent for fashion, color coordination and most of all style did not go unnoticed by the young Louis Fessinger, store manager of Franklin's Department store in El Paso, Texas. Muriel and Louis were married on April 20th 1942 and raised their three children in Albuquerque, New Mexico. They owned and operated Lynn's women's apparel store from 1948 until 1969 when Louis died. In 1976 Muriel married her dear friend William 'Vilu' Hochstadt.
Malki (as Muriel was affectionately known) is survived by her children Lynn (Bruce) Cohne, Hal (Paulann) Fessinger and Stuart (Rosemary) Fessinger; grandchildren: Lisa (Siamak) Khadjenoury, Allon (Christine) Cohne; Jason (Jenna) Fessinger, Leah (Craig) Press, Sara Fessinger and soon to be bridegroom David Weitzner; Michael Fessinger and Ryan Fessinger. Great-grandchildren: Setareh, Arian, Sahar and Sayeh Khadjenoury; James and Leigh Cohne and Caleb Press, and her beloved brother-in-law, Hy Rosenfeld.
Malki is also survived by her Hochstadt family Jordan and Sue Hochstadt, Robert and Diane Hochstadt and Barry and Shelley Hochstadt and their children and grandchildren. She is also survived by an adoring cadre of nieces, nephews and their children and grandchildren.
Preceded in death by her two husbands and three sisters: Rita Friedman, Dorothy Lewis and Irene Rosenfeld. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to Congregation Kol Ami in Salt Lake City, Utah or a charity of your choice.
A heartfelt appreciation to the staff of The Wellington for their loving care of Mom as well as to Jason McGavin and the staff of Cozy Health and Hospice.
A graveside service will be held Tuesday, November 22nd 2011, 2 pm at B'nai Israel Cemetery, Albuquerque, New Mexico.
Malki (as Muriel was affectionately known) is survived by her children Lynn (Bruce) Cohne, Hal (Paulann) Fessinger and Stuart (Rosemary) Fessinger; grandchildren: Lisa (Siamak) Khadjenoury, Allon (Christine) Cohne; Jason (Jenna) Fessinger, Leah (Craig) Press, Sara Fessinger and soon to be bridegroom David Weitzner; Michael Fessinger and Ryan Fessinger. Great-grandchildren: Setareh, Arian, Sahar and Sayeh Khadjenoury; James and Leigh Cohne and Caleb Press, and her beloved brother-in-law, Hy Rosenfeld.
Malki is also survived by her Hochstadt family Jordan and Sue Hochstadt, Robert and Diane Hochstadt and Barry and Shelley Hochstadt and their children and grandchildren. She is also survived by an adoring cadre of nieces, nephews and their children and grandchildren.
Preceded in death by her two husbands and three sisters: Rita Friedman, Dorothy Lewis and Irene Rosenfeld. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to Congregation Kol Ami in Salt Lake City, Utah or a charity of your choice.
A heartfelt appreciation to the staff of The Wellington for their loving care of Mom as well as to Jason McGavin and the staff of Cozy Health and Hospice.
A graveside service will be held Tuesday, November 22nd 2011, 2 pm at B'nai Israel Cemetery, Albuquerque, New Mexico.
I want to just share how lucky I’ve been my whole life.
I’ve had my life through
all of my senses enhanced and heightened because of my grandmother.
Sight – While Malky’s vision began to fail her in later life
her sense of style, fashion, and décor were impeccable and never left her.
Everything about Malke was neat, tasteful, and in its’ correct location.
Many years ago Sahar taught Malke to roll up the plastic
grocery bag to keep them neat and organized…when we cleaned the apt. every
plastic bag was rolled and neatly stored.
You would not believe the organization and skill it took to
create the orthodox kosher kitchen in a tiny Denver townhouse she kept for Vilu
Hochstadt. Milk Dishes, meat Dishes,
parve dishes, Pesach meat and Pesach milk dishes, meat towels, dairy towels –
it was nothing short of amazing! Malky
was so organized that she even passed 24 hours short of exactly 17 years to the
day of our beloved Vilu.
Malky had more than a knack for neatness – although Macular
Degeneration had left her unable to enjoy reading, looking at pictures, TV and being
in the sunlight…she could spot a crumb on the floor from an amazing distance
even in her last days.
Taste – That kitchen in Denver not only was organized and a
masterpiece of engineering but it produced some amazing meals. Shabbat tasted so good in Denver. Although, a most memorable meal was a
Thanksgiving with just the immediate family – 25 or more people - and Gazpacho was being passed to all the
guests –my little brother, feeling worried about his Grandmother who always
cooked and hosted to perfection, leaned over to me and whispered, “Do you think
I should tell grandma, my soup is cold.”
Smell – Dove soap, eucalyptus and Royal Secret cologne –
make me sooo happy. Malky smelled the
best! It’s a little (maybe a lot odd)
but when I was little I used to go to the guest room after Malky would visit
just to sit and smell the room filled with the linger of her perfume. I do the same today with her signature scarves,
even the 1973 B’nai B’rith Women’s membership book holds her smell and fills me
with connection to my grandma.
Touch- On one of my last visits, I reached over and touched
my grandmother’s legs – I could not believe how smooth and soft her skin
felt. I also take to heart numerous
times I would complain about my busy schedule and my grandmother would lean
over, put her hand onto mine and tell me, “you’re not twins.”
Sound – I’m sure you all can close your eyes and hear her
infectious full hearted laugh. Malky lived that cliché – Live, laugh, love! Which brings me to her 6th Sense –
her Sense of Humor. Oy! The sarcasm and the delight in a joke told by
my Uncle Hy are priceless memories I will cherish. What an honor to lived laughed and loved with
Muriel Fessinger. Lisa Cohne Khadjenoury Dec. 2011 The Wellington Memorial Service.
OUTFUCKINGSTANDING
Whirlwind Weekend
Friday Night: Was Setareh's birthday but I had to work and showed the film Apache 8 with a great panel afterward - I am so mad at myself for not taking any pictures. Afterwards, I volunteered to cook 2 Turkeys for the Urban Indian Center so, I cooked 2 turkeys all night.

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